KARMA….

I was never a big believer of past life, karma and philosophical stuff like that.. All my life, (of whatever I've lived so far) i have always believed, hard work always pays.. I am a believer in God, being born in a Tamil Bhramin family, that is the least my parents would expect..I thought God helps those who help themselves... Words like fate, destiny, the circle of life, what goes around..comes back around are nothing but excuses for not succeeding, and never had any significant meaning in my life.. I often ignored all this, thinking it is nothing but just another kitty  party topic..

For those of who who don't know, i flunked my CA exams, in the results announced 3 weeks back... and i am not exaggerating, i had out my heart and soul into it.. For 1 year, i had studied as if  my life depends on it... As it turned out, i flunked the exams when almost All my friends cleared and are employed.. I am not trying to say, that i flunked because of my karma, or whatever, my point is, i deserved better... the point is not  the cliche', "why me?", maybe i may be flawed..i may have gone terribly wrong somewhere..  But i couldn't help my thoughts becoming so philosophical..

This might be  the reason, elders usually say, Be good and Do good all the time... Maybe Karma will be a lesser bitch if we be so.. We all talk about Karma and how it haunts people.. so what is this so called ghost called Karma?? Karma is a principle by which a person is rewarded or punished in a particular birth, or incarnation, according to the deeds or actions of a previous incarnation..! Sounds more like, u don't have the licence to be bad ever..! if you are, well, watch out, someone is watching you...! I don't know if i failed in spite of disciplined efforts because of my Karma, i of-course don't know what i was and how i was in my so called 'previous incarnation'.. But i cant help but spare a thought for it... As the events are unfolding in front of me, my own life, the life of people around me, i sure do at the moment think, Karma is the biggest bitch..!!

It reminds me of the famous speech by Steve Jobs where he talks about, how the happenings of today's events may not make sense right now, but in the future, the dots will automatically connect... and the picture would be clear that day.. not today of tomorrow...  Living today hoping to be a passing phase and wishing for a bigger brighter future.....  As the saying goes... " If it's not right, it's not the end............"

Losing My Religion

Religion? well, when people hear this word, the first thing that flashes in their head is GOD.. Religion, after all, is a man made set of rules to be followed if u worship a particular person, or a divine figure, some call them God, some prophets, some they just call him a savior... So, GOD? who is he after all?? where is he?? 


I am born and brought up in a Tamil Bhramin family. By nature my parents are very religious, very spiritual, and very methodical and precise while doing their daily poojas to the periodical havans (a ritual using fire) and donations to temples and places of god's worship.. Naturally, they have inculcated this virtue in me as well.. And being an obedient boy, i have always accepted what ever they want me to learn n practice. So this childhood habit has become a value for life for me.


But, i always thought to myself, what the world would have been, if the boundaries of religion not existed.. Countless people have died and millions are still  fighting over this limitless boundary called Religion and God.. When all that religion says is Love one and all.. Krishna, Buddha, Jesus, Allah, all came to this land, and all of them got the message of love..Yet, fanatics spread terror in the name of God. 


Sometimes i wonder, how many lives would have been saved and how many could have lived another day, had God not Existed at all....?!!! i also think, is God blind to all the misery in  the world.. 25000 people dying of hunger EVERYDAY in the world..! what is God doing??? the so called 'cursed' land of japan, Tsunamis and earthquakes have claimed billions and billions of lives there.. The nuclear bombing on Hiroshima Nagasaki, killed not only a million people, but also deformed their  future generations. In India, more than half the population is below the poverty line. People are so poor, they have to eat their own feces for a meal..how pitiful is that Innumerable suicides, babies, infants, being killed, women being raped, child killing his mother, mother murdering her daughter, countless divorces.. Now tell me,  WHERE IS GOD??????????????????


Every morning the headline of a tabloid is corruption, arrest, rape,death,loss in business etc... i don't even remember, when was the last time i read something happy or that brought a smile to my face in morning headline. corrupt government officials who loot the general public, the gangsters and burglars who roam the streets, the bureaucrats and politicians who cheat people to accumulate their personal assets, the terrorists causing mayhem are all living life king size...! is this your GOD????????? 

Give all that u can, to the biggest scoundrels, let them live their lives so royally and on the other hand, give nothing but more and more pain and suffering to the poor and modest class.... Even if these rascals are brought to justice some time in the future, they have already lived their lives so happily, any punishment would look small for them, on the contrary, the other class of people, they would be praying to never take birth in this planet with  such a cruel God.. 

I being so religious from childhood, and a strong believer in god, needed his help or rather his grace in a defining moment in my life... And guess what, God was apparently  absent that day... The land beneath my feet slipped...i was in a state of complete shock... in my conversation with God, i told him,"i gave u all that i had, believed in you, worshiped you,never lost faith in you, then why didn't you help me??" i never got an answer from him..! And since that day, i have been losing my faith in him... i am losing my religion...! I want a few answers to my questions....

People say, whatever is to happen will happen.. it is not in our hands etc...well, i don't really understand, what good in this misery? can the world get any worse?? will the sun ever rise in this world?? Will i get what i deserve? will the world be a better place? will our children too suffer the same fate?? If there is any God up there.... ANSWER ME..!!!!!!!

TRUST REALLY?

 

We have heard a lot of people say, "Trust.. That is the only hope left in the world".  Yes, I agree to some extent. Trust is essential in everyone's life, and one must always have trust.. But, how far and importantly how well can you really trust a friend..??

Read the real life story of a 18 year old girl (then 14), who is a very dear to me, she paid a heavy price for trusting her friends!

August 2007

One week before the plan:
A group of friends were scheduled to meet after 2 long years. These guys are childhood friends and have known each other for 6 years. Rishi, Nitin & Jennifer (names changed to protect identity). As decided, they were to meet at Rishi's place for a reunion.

2 days before the plan:
She was the youngest in the group.  Rishi asked her to meet him at his place & promised that Nitin & Jennifer would come over too. She didn't bother confirming the plan with them  because she trusted Rishi. And naturally so, because she had known Rishi all her life, grew up wid him, not in her wildest dreams she would have known what was in store for her..

On the planned day:
She reached Rishi's place in the afternoon as decided. To her surprise, there was no one but himself in the house. She asked him where Nitin & Jennifer were, he said they would reach in no time. They waited for them. She waited anxiously, while he was pretending to wait. Who would have guessed what happened next?

Rishi tried to get close to her. She felt uncomfortable. And tried to push him away. But he held her tight against the wall & started to strip her. She was trying to refrain, but he was too strong for the helpless girl. He kissed her forcefully, all she could do was pray and hope for some help..she got none! No one came to her rescue. Not even God..!  She was crying! She was in pain. He forced her to the bed. In her self defense, she bit him hard on his forearm, hit his testicles, grabbed her shirt & ran out of the house..

Weeping on her way back home, she called up Jennifer to ask why didn't she come. And to this girl's disbelief, she learned that, Jennifer and Nitin, both weren't aware of any plan of a reunion....
That girl couldn't take it, she felt so cheated and heart broken.. So much for trusting an old friend...?? She felt sick, she wanted to die. She paid a heavy price for trusting someone who ended up assaulting her sexually.. She tried to end her life several times after the incident and was under heavy medication to control her depression..

For many of you, this may sound like a bollywood mega hit, All this happened to a person who is so dear to me... I feel like laughing, when anyone says "Trust me.."


Trust is good... Too much of it, is bad.. How much to trust a person, well, that is an individual's call... I hope this story would be a lesson to my readers..

The Bolly Litmus-Interesting Chemistry Lessons!

Our desi tinsel town does not fail to surprise. With new developments and fresh creativity modifying filmmaking ideas, Bollywood has come a long way from its initial days. Over the years, it has been proven, that a film’s success depends, in great measure, on the pair enacting the lead roles. Thus comes in the reference to onscreen chemistry that these pairs share. With changes in the modern lifestyles and present mindset, filmmakers have tried to bend the rules and have been successful at most times. Read on for some new onscreen jodis that are gaining high ratings on the Bollywood popularity meter. Some are even real life lovebirds or are on the road to become so. Whatever, be their status, their ability to come across as a convincing couple is what has turned them into peoples’ favorites.

With Gen Y stars dominating the choices of filmmakers, most of the present Bollywood jodis who are perpetually in news, are vibrant and have brought in a much wanted but never before seen freshness to cinema.

The Punjabi Punch

While the Kapoor family has been hailed as B town’s first family, the junior most Kapoor to hit the silver screen has always generated lot of attention. His paring on screen with Deepika Padukone let to a lot of tongues wagging about a real life romance which were proved true. However, after sometime of cozy outings and even family meet ups, this hot onscreen pair chose to part ways in real. Despite this, fans have always been wishing a comeback of Miss Long Legs and the Kapoor kid to come together to recreate the magic of the killer Bachna Ae Haseeno.

Hold on…the punch is to hit you harder still…! Another on screen chemistry formulation that is again in news despite having fizzed out some time back is that of Piggychops and Ranbir. While the Anjaana Anjaani pair could not do much justice to the anticipation of the audience in this first outing onscreen, tinsel town and fan clubs are abuzz with their chemistry in the upcoming Barfee. With strikingly different looks and a de-glam avatar they have donned in the film, one can only wait to know if the screen lights up at their second attempt to make a fire.

Flowery Fresh

When there is talk of Ranbir and chemistry, Katrina Kaif- the ex lover of Sallu Miyan can be expected to queue up next in line. Pretty Miss Kaif has been proving critics wrong with her clever choice of films and err… heroes too! While most of Bollywood is split in camps, one lady who clears away from loyalty to any group is the Brit lass. Her chemistry with Imran Khan in the upcoming Meri Brother Ki Dulhan is simple, fresh and awesome, to say the least. The pairing is young and the promos drive home the point that both sizzle in their own way on screen. Now it is to be seen if the Barbie Girl of Bollywood recreates the chemistry on lines of the Ajab Prem Ki Gazab Kahani outing with the Aaamir Khan bhanja, this time.

Kapur-Kapoor

With same sounding surnames, two Bolly favorites who have been generating a lot of popularity in the past week are Sonam Kapoor and chocolate boy Shahid Kapoor. With Mausum promos flooding the internet and print media, the pair’s onscreen chemistry is also being discussed among cine gossipmongers. While the Kapoor lady indeed stands tall and has an all diva like aura, the Jab We Met man well compliments her character in the film.

Band Bajaa and Chemistry…

No, we have not got the movie name all messed up. We are talking of the hot hot, not be missed chemistry between Ranveer Singh and the Parachute girl Anushka Sharma. With the super hit Band Baaja Baraat having brought the couple in the limelight, things have now turned all real from reel! Yes– one of the most refreshing onscreen chemistries has translated into real for the lead pair of Band Baaja Baraat.  Catch them up vacationing in Goa and they still maintain the classic “we are just friends” stance. Way to go before the actual Band Baaja is heard.

The Saifeena Sizzler

One of the top Bollywood chemistry chapters that have real life connotations too- This pair rocked and ripped apart the screens with Qurbaan but has chosen to play down their onscreen outings. Fans were in for a treat with the Chote Nawab and the Kapoor girl choosing to venture onscreen while being a full time couple. Well, for now we have almost forgotten the blunder that resulted while Kareena had Shahid around! As of now it looks that this chemistry formula is being hailed as a classic one by fans and industry favorites.

Dependable Serial Kisser in Picture

Emraan Hashmi has had the best songs in Bollywood and perhaps gets to relish the best chemistry with co stars too. Hover, the latter came into greatest focus in his Murder 2 outing with the gorgeous Jacqueline Fernandez. With the least of inhibitions that is pretty new to our film industry, the two managed to actually set the screen on fire. The Haal-e-Dil song on YouTube has received manifold hits owing to the sensual video that reveals the awesome chemistry that the Hashmi–Fernandez pair has managed to shake up!

With such new formulae hitting the chemistry book of Bollywood it is only time that shall tell which would be part of the classic pairs on lines of Amitabh-Rekha or Shahrukh-Kajol. Since fans today cherish a great movie with a bucket full of pop corn, we can only pray that; whatever be the real life consequence of onscreen jodis; the pairs at least deliver awesome silver screen chemistry. With more and more newcomers and non filmy background actors boarding the Bollywood bus, we look forward to more such interesting pairings who make us believe that they are very much in love, even if they are not! After all, good cinema means bringing realism to things that may be imaginative!

The 7 Types Of GUYS

Well ladies, this one’s for you. All the time you’d wonder, which guy to date, what do guy’s usually think and what kind of species are guys exactly? (Well, yes I called them specie because, whatever they do, it’s unique or more exactly-WEIRD)

They seem to find the rights in all the wrongs, and mess up the easiest things in some or the other way. So here’s a brief list about 7 types of guys you would usually see, and a few of their traits -

MR. CHEEZY

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He’ll always have a cheezy little grin over his seemingly harmless face, warning the girl that she’s in for a BIG surprise or shock, whatever you frame it to be.

Gelled hair, strong colognes, tacky shining leather shoes over skinny pants, and usually a floral print tight fitting shirt, he’d come closer, and whisper in a melodramatic fashion (like the late 90′s heroes , open hands, toothy smiles)-

” Ye hawain, ye haseen wadiyan, madhosh kar dengi mujhe

Yeh tumhari surmayi aankhen…”

Dude, wait what does “Surmayi” means?

Come on man, she needs a boyfriend, not Pankaj Udaas!

THE MACHO GUY

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The way he’ll approach, is the funniest scene a girl can imagine! Tight jeans, ultra small fake BEING HUMAN tee (inspired by their icon, MR.SALLU, The dabangg eshtyle) that shows off their artificially enhanced big muscles, arms distinctly  apart ,as if he’s got rashes in his underarms and the poor guy can’t bring them any closer, peculiar. He’ll come close, closer, closer-

“Will you frandship?”

HOLY SHIT! The time you wasted in building your body, wish you’d have used it to develop your brain cells instead!

THE WANNABE CASANOVA:

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All what he will talk about is, how many girls he dated, rather dumped!

Dude, how many girls did you date?

“Ahh…Hmm, I guess, 1 2 3, I can’t remember how many girls, they were like too many!”

hahaha, sure man, you are so hot!

“That girl there, She’s my ex. You see that girl there? I dumped her too.

And you that girl, she likes me too!”

Yeah man, as I said, YOU are SO HOT!

Now, let’s just interpret how his cocky brain treats real life situations:

A girl says “Hi”- SHE PROPOSED HIM!

She sum how gives him her phone number- SHE KISSED HIM!

And if, by chance, she touches his hand- the guy tells the entire world that he DOODLED DOO with her!

Yeah man, YOU ARE SO SO SOOO HOT!

THE NEEDY GUY:

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“Please be my girlfriend, please please please, I’ll do everything!”

When a girl sees this kind of guy, she’ll visualise the world famous Govinda song-

Main toh Joru ka Ghulam banke rahunga!

He’ll be the perfect pet, ooops, I mean boyfriend .

He’ll wash your clothes, take your dog out for walk, clean dishes, and carry your bags, everything he possibly can do!

And suddenly, he’ll utter these words-” I am so nice that I never touched my last girlfriend!”

BOOM!

Maybe that is why she dumped you! LOSER!

 THE NYMPHOMANIAC

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 He is someone with big dark eyes, always searching for female presence. Whenever he will be talking to you, his eyes would be down, wandering at some place that you won’t be comfortable with.

“Look up jerk, they can’t talk for God’s sake!”

That’s perhaps what any girl would love to say at that time (with an evil expression).

He won’t miss a single chance to get in your pants.

“Isn’t it hot in here?

Let’s go to my place and you can take all your clothes off there”.

THADDAAAKK!

Poor guy ends up with a red cheek.

Dude, you were lucky that she hit you in your face and not somewhere else, and you do know what I mean!

THE BROKE

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He would seem nice, sweet talks, will take you out on a fancy dinner, wine, chicken salad with an essence of Italian spices.

“CHEQUE PLEASE”

And the moment he sees the bill, all the gentlemanliness vanishes!

He’d search his pockets, have a look on the floor, on the table, and then gently say -

“Babes, do you have money? I guess I left my wallet at home.”

How could you forget your wallet!  Didn’t you know that you were going on a date?

A few more dates, and then the girl will finally realize, the guy has a habit of FORGETTING his wallet every time!

Time won’t be far when he would call you up at the midnight- ” Ughh, do you have a few hundred bucks, I got to pay myTelephone bill.”

That’s the right time to say- Dude; you need to get a job because you are broke!

Why does it happen to me guy- aka THE CRY BABY!

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Perhaps the most irritating breed of guys, they make you think, are you really dating a GUY?

At first you might think that he’s a bit emotional, but sorry, he just can’t stay happy!

I flunked in my exam- WHY DOES IT HAPPEN TO ME?

I missed my bus-WHY DOES IT HAPPEN TO ME?

My ex dumped me- WHY DOES IT HAPPEN TO ME?

And slowly he’ll move on to bigger things-

India lost the match- WHY DOES IT HAPPEN TO ME!

Life is so unfair, why is that guy staring at me? Why are those kids laughing?

WHY?

 WHY?

 WHY?

Yeah man, everything bad happens to you!

But please for god’s sake!

STOP WHINING!

So, next time you see a weird guy, don’t forget his breed, or who knows, maybe one day, you might be lucky enough to discover one of your own.

Steps to Become More Interesting & Fun

Most people like being around interesting & fun individuals. It’s just human nature. They have good social lives and are rarely bored. I have some very interesting people in my life, and I’ve taken some time to think deeply about what makes them interesting.

In this article we will look into the steps you can take to become a more fun individual.

Be active. Are you having fun when you are sitting at a bench, looking down and not doing anything at all? In order to be fun to be with, you need to be active, to stand up, to be creative. Maybe do a “happy dance” when something good happens, take up a sport, or twirl around to cheer someone up. It works!

Be curious. Know what you’ll be doing later. If you get turned down or rejected, move on. You never know what’s going to happen until you try. Always try to seek out more knowledge or skill in an area that interests you. It will really improve your character. Go ride a bike past the local park or walk to the nearest local hangout spot because you never know who you’ll meet.

Dress funky. If you have a refined style and wish to keep it; try to experiment with brighter and more unique colors. It will make you stand out and seem like a more fun individual.

Make your next holiday an unusual one. Go to an exotic place and do things you would not normally do such as backpacking, climbing a mountain or going on a jungle safari. Or if you have never been on a “party-holiday”, this is a good option too.

Learn to Develop Yourself Socially and Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risks. Stepping outside your comfort zone will make you a much more interesting person. In addition, you may find some things about yourself that you never knew before.

Read, Read, Read. Read both fiction and non-fiction. Read magazines. Read your friend’s blogs. Read random people’s blogs that have taken the time to comment—they probably have something interesting to say. More importantly, read both for purpose and for pleasure.

Be positive and optimistic. Notice the “silverlining” in every situation. Positive people will be attracted by it and cynicism is a very conservative trait. Smile and laugh as often as you can.

List the people who have these traits and prioritize those you would like to spend time with. Remember that who you spend time with greatly affects how your personality develops.

Believe that you’re fun. Really believe in yourself and always tell yourself that you are fun. Think of your friends, even friends that are maybe not so fun, look at what they do that you like to see them do… then do it yourself . The deal is, when you tell yourself this you’ll start acting like it, after all you are what you believe you are.

The Choices that will Dramatically Impact the Quality of your Life

Life is full of choices and opportunities. However, some choices will have a  greater impact on your life than others.  There are a few choices that will dramatically impact the quality of your life no matter when you make that choice.

So one must know them and the best of them!

Friendships: If there is any area in life where you should choose wisely, it would be your friendships. Numerous studies have shown that you become a byproduct of the people you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with losers, then you’re well on your way to becoming one.  If you surround yourself with winners, then you’re on your way to becoming one. Another thing that you want to do is chose friends who reinforce your positive self image. There’s a big difference between friends who joke about you endearingly versus those who seem to get their rocks off by putting you down. If you have some toxic friends, it’s time to detox!

Careers: Making the choice between passion and practicality is something you really should take seriously in your career. I didn’t do it in my younger years and as a result my life was miserable in numerous ways. My health deteriorated, I was depressed, and I was always angry or anxiety ridden. A career takes up a significant part of your life, up to 65% of your day in many cases. If you hate what you do, then think about what kind of things you are going to attract into your life. The majority of your time, energy, and thoughts are being directed to your misery. It’s a simple application of the law of attraction at work.

Relationships: Your choice in relationships not only alters the quality of your life, but the quality of someone else’s. So, if you make a bad choice you run the risk of making two people’s lives miserable. Of course the opposite is true as well. If you make the right choice then you double the joy that goes out into the world and bring more of it back to you. Have you ever noticed how at the beginning of a relationship when you start dating somebody, everything seems too be perfect. You have a great time together and everything goes smoothly and you seem to be on a roll of attracting positive experiences into your life. Then, you stop getting along, and everything else goes to hell too. So, make sure you choose wisely.

Reactions: This is the most overlooked choice that one has! It has been said over and over that life is not about what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you. Once we learn how to control our reactions to everything that happens we manage to achieve complete control over our lives. We are no longer impacted by circumstances and events because we are choosing our reactions.